How to make a positive change….. and this is about lasting change…. It is in 3 parts:
* Be Positive – THIS PART
* Train your Brain
The first part you should read if you haven’t yet is about making the decision. That’s the start. You can’t do anything without really deciding!
So here’s Part 2 – Be Positive
YES YOU CAN – Will Smith
Nobody can make effective, positive, change without really wanting it. You need to think about the positive outcome, a lot. Get yourself to the visualisation of the outcome so you want. SOOOO desire it and don’t stop thinking about it. You need to get positively obsessed, imagine it, want it, feel it, attract it.
Make it part of your psychology by using your RAS – Recticular Activity System – this is the part of your brain that sorts out the mumble of everyday ‘noise’ going on in your head so you can focus on what you are or need to do right now. So you think about it, now, whatever it is you’ve decided you want and it becomes a focus in that part of your brain, in your RAS.
It works like this: You can’t notice something or focus on it until you know about it, yes? If you’ve never heard of you Reticular Activity System before, now you will here it somewhere sometime, I guarantee.
Here’s a personal example: A green smoothie. I’d never thought of having one, though I am working on changing to a more healthy diet. They look awful! Probably the last thing I want for breakfast, but a nutritionist I follow had been posting about them on Facebook and then I heard two of my friends talking about having them for breakfast. I tried one, got hooked and now, more often than not, that’s what I have. I love them. What a positive change for me!
So, introduce your brain to the decision you’ve made in a positive light. People change all the time and you can too. Check out this man, who started out ‘normal size’ and then he got big, and even bigger and bigger. He just slowly got bigger and bigger but one day he got ‘inspired’ and he ran. He ran only a little obviously, as he was huge, but he didn’t stop and eventually he ran a whole 5k. He kept running and got smaller, and happier. He stayed positive as he was getting positive results – you tend to get those when you are positive and keep going!!
Eventually he ran a marathon with his Dad & his brother. His words and the story is simple but inspiring – watch it! My 120lb journey.
All it took was a little inspiration. Ben says, ‘I can call myself happy’. If you want to do it. ALL you have to do is Do It. I’ve gone on to find out what inspired him and it was his grandmother who simply asked if he was happy with his life. He actually started a blog to share with her having realised for a long time, he wasn’t, and decided to do something positive about it. It took him about 18 months to go from that first run to running a marathon. He has since written a book and he goes on, running and walking.
He was just an ordinary person. He found a way – you decide to – and think positively you can also make a change. Once you’ve decided you need to stay positive and you can find the way, make it part of you. You do need to get obsessed with it, focus on it, start with small and build. Will Smith, tells a story about how his Dad knocked down a wall & told him and his brothers to rebuild it. He was quite a small boy then. He says, you don’t think about the wall, the big job, you have to start small and get obsessed, take one brick at a time & start, then eventually you get the wall.
That guy, the running man, he just lost a few lbs every week, over a long period of time. Of course he’s much more likely to keep it off, and keep going.
This is when I realised it’s about habit formation and rituals. It’s the actions you do consistently that make the difference, no matter how small. Everybody has the same amount of time and we are lucky enough to choose what we do most of the time. That’s from what we put in our mouths, what we do with our time, at least our free time. YES we all have some free time and mostly, you can choose what to do with it. If you want to watch a soap rather than a business book, that IS your choice! If you’ve made a real decision to make a change you need to think positively about everything you need to do to make it happen.
Most people’s standard for financing their lives is to pay their bills & have some money to do extra fun stuff they like. That’s fine if you are happy with how it’s going. However, if you decide to make a change to that because you really want or need to, you will find a way. You raise your game.
If you decide to make a change you have ABSOLUTE control over what is going to happen and how you react to the things that happen in relation to that change. Decide with conviction and stay positive, make it an obsession, form new habits and rituals. Take failures as learning. Talk to yourself positively about how you will do it, and overcome obstacles by staying positive.
I’m telling you – You stay positive – that’s both in the way you think about your change and what you actually do.
In ‘The Pursuit of Happiness’ (the film) the Dad, played by Will Smith says,”Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t do something. You want something. You go get it. Period.”
So, in this three-part blog, number 1 was to Decide and this is number 2, Be Positive.
* Be Positive – THIS PART
* Train your Brain – a simple and amazing way to help you change, coming up next